Love is a word which can be a noun or a verb. Loving someone can be felt as an emotion or can be expressed as a language. But more than feeling, more than words, love is an action which needs to be seen. Because love shown in action is hard to be lost.

Why words might not be enough

Love is a word that is used so commonly to describe sentiments. We practically love everything that we do not dislike. That’s why we love chocolates as well as lemonades. We love the smell of rain just as much we love the smell of our perfume. Love is a variable that fits in every equation. People love to travel and they love to dance. They love to party and they love to laze around. So basically ‘love’ explains emotions, situation, likings, mood, wishes and what not!! And what love really mean in each scenario is quite confusing.

That is why when you tell someone that you love them, it should mean more than your love for a cup of hot coffee.

Love in action

Help them

Sharing workload is the most welcomed way of saying that I care. When you help someone without waiting to be asked; you are sending a message that you understand their needs. And even if there is least that you can do to help in the task they are currently at, you can always pick something else from their to-do list. And there are times when the best way you can help is just by staying there with them.

Take part in their hobbies

Show interest in activities that they enjoy. Whether it’s watching a movies of their choice or eating at their favourite restaurant. People appreciate when you engage yourself in their interests. Because it’s not about activities here; rather it’s all about the gesture that you put them first. It’s a selfless act, where you are communicating that for you what matters the most is that you two are together. Whether it’s your hobby or their’s, it doesn’t matter to you.

Put thoughts in gifts

While gifting, it’s not your thoughts that counts, but how you make the other person feel. And it takes a little more effort than simply buying something related to their hobbies. Thankfulness doesn’t come from the thought you put into the gift. Rather, it comes from the fact that how you showcase your connection with them. How you make them feel seen. For example, for a friend who loves baking, the obvious gift could be a kitchen tool. But for a meaningful gifting you need to delve more. Understand what their favourite dish, their style of cooking and their frustration in kitchen. And that’s how you can gift what’s ideal for them, rather, what seems ideal to you.

Listen actively

When we engage in active listening, we are making conscious effort to thoroughly understand what others are trying to tell us. Active listening doesn’t only involve paying attention to words, but also to body language, tone and mood of the speaker. This gesture makes the other person feel valued; they feel heard and understood. When we listen with patience we are able to see the situation from their perspective and understand their viewpoint. By doing this we are giving them an environment where they can trust us and feel safe. This way we can help them to feel better. Moreover, active listening avoids confusion and frustration in communication. Thus, conversations are more meaningful and satisfactory.

Words that means more than ‘I Love You’

Actions do speak louder than words but that doesn’t mean words are totally insignificant. They just need to be expressed in their true sense.

I trust you

Utmost expression of love is trust. By telling someone that we trust them, we give them freedom and space. Because there is no fear of betrayal or loss. Trust is an expression that opens up our heart and let the other person enter deeply into our soul.

I understand

‘I understand‘, this expression offers comfort. Comfort of knowing that they do not need to explain their feelings or situation. Because we understand. And this comfort is fundamental for ever lasting connections.

I am here for you

The most significant aspect of a relationships is having someone to lean on. Having someone who has your back, and who is with you through the ups and downs of life. Always remind your loved one that they can count on you, rely on you. Tell them that you are there for them.

I am happy with you

People with strong ties with their friends and families are happier. Because, to be able to share our personal feeling is the key to our well-being and happiness. And that’s what we need to convey to our loved ones. We need to tell them that they make us happy.

Thank you

We often take our loved ones for granted, especially in long term relationships. And don’t feel the need to thank them for what they do for us. Because it’s a common understanding that people do things for each other in a relationships. But that’s not it. Rather, saying a simple thank you can nurture your relationship like nothing else. When we express our thankfulness to people who care for us; we send them a message that they are valued.

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Love is not what you say, love is what you do. Let the people we love feel seen, heard and valued through our actions.

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks